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Friday, August 29, 2014

How an Introvert Copes at ProBlogger.

                                Lee-Anne from Is it just me?

Apparently I’m an introvert. I’ve always been one but over the last 9 years I’ve been shielded from this fact by having the same job, the same friends, five of my own creations living with me and my wingman, Scotto. 

I’d forgotten how timid I am in social situations. Especially social situations where I can’t hide my reserved nature behind a chilled glass of Mexican fire water. 

The first session at the ProBlogger conference went off like a bottle of wine at an A.A. meeting; excellent speakers and a delightfully friendly event-management blogger by the name of Lulu Perez to sit next to and chat with.

I missed my blogging bestie, Lee-Anne from the famous Is it just me? blog (who couldn't make the conference this year) but I could make more friends... couldn't I?

When the crowd of 500+ delegates milled out to the lobby for morning tea my head pivoted around in desperation. ‘Where the hell are my blogging buddies,’ I thought.

There were groups of elegant ladies draped all over the chairs; a sea of unfamiliar, scary faces. Not scary because they were ugly or anything. Just scary, scary.

I bustled myself out to the hotel foyer in search of someone, anyone to talk to… I sat down on a chair in the foyer, alone and awkward… Mrs Nigel No Friends. Peculiar Poinker. Creepy Lonely Pinky.

Tears were but a blink away. 'What sort of sook are you?’ I growled at myself. ‘You’re a bloody grown woman. Get out there and mingle.’

Instead, I texted Scotto. ‘I’m sitting by myself in the lobby because I can’t find anyone to talk to. I want to buy a coffee from the lobby bar (even though there’s a complimentary morning tea provided next door) but I haven’t any money in my purse. I want to go home. Waaaah!’

He swiftly sent a sympathetic reply to his lily-livered wife, trembling in her melodramatic angst like a Chihuahua in a thunder storm.

‘Bugger it!’ I thought after smelling the tantalising aroma of coffee wafting around me, and dragged myself up, striding purposefully back to where the networking action was happening, the action I’d made the long trip down to the Gold Coast for.

“This is an awful place for introverts,” coughed a fit looking lady standing behind me as I nervously balanced my coffee cup and handbag trying not to spill it over someone like a complete loser.

It was Liz from the Fitter Liz blog and she was just the lifeline I needed.

A few minutes later Kathy from Yin Yang Mother popped her pretty head into our conversation and then the lovely Sophie from The Mother Load joined in.

Suddenly my forlorn and wretched disposition did a 360 turn around. I could do it! Pinky could pretend to be a normal person after all.

But next time I decide to attend a ProBlogger conference I’ll be bringing a friend… and not just a photo of one.



Janet from Middle Aged Mama , Pinky 
and Lee-Anne.



   
       Kathy (Yin Yang Mother), Emily (Have a laugh on me),

       Emily (YLSNED) and Denise (Denise Mooney)

                             and Lee-Anne!


                 Kathy, Pinky and Sophie (The Mother Load)
                               and Lee-Anne!


Do you get shy in crowds of strangers?


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OK, wait... what?!? Did you pack an A4 picture of your head for the conference?
I would have sat with you Pinky. Are you missing me?
1 reply · active 587 weeks ago
Yes I AM! And Louisa Simmonds, Alana House, and many others!
Haha...so glad I was there after all!! (In spirit if not in person ) Next year...

Say 'hi' to everyone! xxx
1 reply · active 587 weeks ago
Oh, Pinky! I hate conferences for all of these same reasons—they can be terribly isolating and feel quite lonely. So, good on you for having the courage to do it, and for taking that step and meeting people! I hope you have a blast.

PS. Have you run into Rae (iopenedmymouthanditranawaywithme) yet?
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1 reply · active 587 weeks ago
Yes I did and she looks like a thirty something ball of fun. She's gorgeous. I'll get a photo today :)
Oh, good for you! I dream of being there one day. Do you actually have to be a 'pro' blogger to attend? I am dreadfully amateurish haha. I bet some of the other bloggers are quite intimidating (not because they're mean or anything - just hugely successful and stuff)!
1 reply · active 587 weeks ago
Everyone is intimidating to me Kez. Ten percent of the delegates haven't even blogged yet so no, you don't have to be a problogger at all!
Pinky - so lovely to meet you (that would be yesterday now as it is past midnight). Looking forward to seeing you for Day 2. X
1 reply · active 587 weeks ago
I know Liz and she's lovely. We shared a room last year. So glad Lee-Anne got to go!

I have to be in the right mood to play extroverted!

Hope you had a fabulous time!
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2 replies · active 587 weeks ago
She was Deb! I think she got a lot out of it too. She told me about some of her intriguing plans on the second day.
Thanks Debs :) xxx
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Do I get shy in crowds of strangers? Do I ever! They don't even have to be strangers, any gathering of my fellow humans makes me feel like a very large sore thumb. Maybe it's a writer thing - we spend so much time in our imaginations, it can be hard to make the transition to the world 'out there'. I'm glad you managed to break out of the bubble and enjoy the conference.
2 replies · active 587 weeks ago
The second day was much better Annabelle. I wonder if it's a writer thing or just that more introverts are writers? If you can understand what I'm trying to say :)
Introversion and writing do seem to go together, though I'm not sure which comes first - it's one of those chicken and egg things, I guess.
Lovely to meet you Michelle :) Though your comments section had me stumped for a bit! I spent the whole two days being introverted. But I just figure that's who I am and try not to let it all faze me. Who knew about the tennis court seating though!
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I know how you feel. This is why I don't like nor attend events. At least you're brave enough to turn up and it didn't end up too bad.
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